I had a baby 3 months ago and ever since sex was okay'd by the doc we've had problems with getting him in. I dunno if the doc stitched me up too much or what but I'm tellin you this is worse now than when he first took my virginity a lil over a year ago. Is there ANYTHING we can do to speed this process along?

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I had a baby 3 months ago and ever since sex was okay'd by the doc we've had problems with getting him in. I dunno if the doc stitched me up too much or what but I'm tellin you this is worse now than when he first took my virginity a lil over a year ago. Is there ANYTHING we can do to speed this process along?

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Hi everyone,

My boyfriend and I have been together for over four years. I consider our relationship, sex and otherwise, to be really happy and healthy.

I know that my boyfriend looks at porn, although not frequently. While I used to feel insecure about this, I've come a really long way and it doesn't bother me now. However, I've noticed once or twice that when I log onto my computer (which he uses every once in a while since he doesn't have his own) and hit the drop down box to go to a website I visit frequently (online banking or Amazon or whatever) the history has been cleared. It doesn't happen every time he uses the computer.

Today, noticing my history had been cleared, I hit the drop down bar for Google searches and found three different searches for very general porn - nothing specific and really nothing to bother me. However, I feel sad about the fact that he feels he has to clear the history after watching porn. He'll be here again in a few hours and I know I should say something, but I'm not quite sure what.

Obviously, I'm not going to fly off the handle and be upset about it; I don't want him to feel like he has to hide these things from me. I want to express that although it isn't my favorite thing ever, I'm not going to be mad at him for watching porn. I also want to express that it makes me feel...sad? hurt? that he is secretive about it.

Ideas? Thanks :]

out of curiousity, how many ladies here have been insulted and or threatened by a guy because you had sex with him once, possibly twice, and then never again? Ive been accused lately of being an alcoholic and having my p.o. Called to tell on my past drug abuse and self harm, what a p.o. Would care about the self harm, im not sure, lol. I used to be somewhat fairly sexually active but have cut down a lot this year for varying reasons, but having guys out right insult me over it was a little hard to take at the time, but now i find it amusing since i currently have a real boyfriend again :) just wondered people's opinions on actually being mildly threatened over not wanting to have sex with that person anymore. What did he seriousily think he was going to get out of that? Men, excuse me..boys..can be so confusing and mean sometimes.

I've searched through the memories list, but I couldn't find anything specifically addressing my personal problem.

My current boyfriend and I have been sleeping together for about 3 weeks now. There was a lot of sex during the first week, but then it slowly began to decline. The reason: he revealed to me that he has a very low sex drive. It's a sensitive topic for him, and he's actually pretty embarrassing for him. He admitted that he has not always been this way, which leads me to believe that it's at least somewhat psychological in nature (he's had some interesting experiences with past relationship: girl who cheated on him twice, a control freak, a sex addict).

I told him that I never wanted him to have sex with me unless he wanted (ie: not give in just to "make me happy"), and I don't intend to go against my word on that topic. However, it really is beginning to drive me crazy because my sex drive is insanely high (especially given the fact that we're new partners) and I am always horny and he's...always not horny. I don't want to be mad with him, but sometimes I can't help but be a little frustrated.

He says that he likes to turn me on and do stuff with me, but I guess it's almost awkward just to outright ask for oral sex (not to mention the slightly "unsexy" factor). However, I understand that beggars can't be choosers, so...I'm working on getting over that.

My question is this: am I doing the right thing by letting him call the shots regarding sex? Should I encourage him to talk about it more even though he's slightly uncomfortable with the topic? I feel like I'm always treading on thin ice in this area and I have no idea how to handle myself.

So, after 11 months of being silly and unsure, I'm finally in a committed relationship with this guy, and it's amazing. We have everything in common, and he's smart and funny and just so good to me. I'm so happy to have him in my life.

Fast forward, we're horny as fuck and we want to bang like bunnies whenever we're around each other. That's not a big deal for me, cuz while I'm not a virgin, and with the one slip up in January, I've not had sex in 2 years. He's never had sex. He's fooled around, but never all the way, ya know?

We are getting hot and heavy, and we did have sex, but he's really nervous and has trouble...getting there, if you know what I mean. I really enjoy being with him, and I can tell that he's insecure about a lot of things, like his weight (which doesn't bother him me in the least) or about messing up in bed...which....he has no problem with at all hahahha. he's amazing.

but what can i do to him out? I personally

for the last year or two i have had an impossible time being turned on by my boyfriend. i dread having sex more than anything. it hurts and i'm always stressed out and tense. it also doesn't help that i'm fairly tight (and not wet) and that he's very much above average in size. i hate that the entire time we're doing it i'm just hoping that it's going to be over soon.

i become tense the moment we're undressed and no matter how long foreplay lasts it doesn't do any good because the entire time i'm thinking about how it's going to hurt. i've tried to take my mind off of it, but nothing i'm doing is helping. even with lubricant it can still be unpleasant.

my boyfriend has been very patient, but it visibly upsets him. whenever he tries to put it in i tend to yell and scooch away. he thinks it's his fault, but it really isn't. i'm madly in love with him and i'm incredibly attracted to him, so why can't we have good sex!? why can't i WANT to have sex?? for the first two years we were together it was amazing and then out of nowhere (i've never been on birth control pills or anything) it just started to be a painful, painful chore for me.

tips? advice? anything? :(

This may be a long shot but figure I'll try anyway.

After 11 years of being put on a million different medications, my psych opted for Imipramine.

My question is: has anyone had any experience with this drug or know anyone who has? Do you have any PERSONAL information on it? (I went to various websites already so no need to tell me what it does or side effects you found through browsing)

Thank you so much in advance if anyone knows anything.

alright i took the sugestions and finally had my first PIV ORGASM lol!!! dont really know what happend different, but i went with the sensation and BAM! it happened really quickly lol. now i just want to have it all the time lol, sadly the bf will be at hunting camp for the week. but when he gets back its on. i want to see if it will happen again. does it tend to get more intense over time??? still in awe!

 So I am a 27 year old female and have enjoyed anal play with past partners, mostly just rimming. Recently I have had some problems with external hemorrhoids and although they have seemed to go away for the time being, I am left with some extra skin, skin tags I think. Now that I have a new partner I am worried that I will no longer be able to receive something that I very much enjoy for fear of how it looks and possibly feels. This is so embarrassing and I am wondering if anyone else has had this problem. I am even embarrassed to 69 while I am on top because that area is visible. I feel that this issue is greatly inhibiting me!

me and my girlfriend are both clean and in a monogamous relationship. we've always used condoms but recently we've tried without.
both times we've started without a condom but i put one on before i finish. afterwards, it really burns when i urinate. it's only the times that we start without condoms though.
is this a reaction to something?

Soooo...my boyfriend and I are in a long distance relationship. I was supposed to fly out to see him yesterday, but he got picked for jury duty and we canceled. We decided that not this weekend, but next weekend, I'll come visit.

The bad news is, I'll probably be having my period that weekend. I really want to get laid, but the problem is that my boyfriend and I don't like period sex because it smells. Like...you know, blood. And if my boyfriend were Edward Cullen, I'm sure that'd be just fine, but he's not (fortunately). Neither he nor I like that smell, and considering I will be visiting him on my heaviest days, it will be very, very present.

Is the only way to fix this by having sex in the shower (something we've tried and failed miserably at, multiple times)? Because if so, then I shall be very disappointed. And I can't use an Instead cup because we've tried them before and they just...are super uncomfortable during sex and I also have an IUD.

Suggestions?

(Cross posted to vaginapagina

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Some random bitch left you a comment on Facebook. It was something like:
"Hey, your friend has told me a lot about you, maybe we could get to know each other, give me your e-mail"
And you gave the random bitch your fucking e-mail.
I know you don't love me, and I'm not even your Facebook friend and I have to get to another account to read your comments, but fuck, why the hell?
And then I spend the rest of my day raging and calling my friends and telling everyone I want to kill her and making plans about me going there and killing her, your fucking friend and you. And I have to calm myself for being so angry and then cry myself to sleep because you're having fun with other girls that are not me and I am here, planning to kill bitches for you.

what the hell do am i suppose to do??

i am in love with my best friend. who is dating this girl.
yet he and me.. are basically together together.
as friends and more.
he told me he would be with me soon, yet its been three months..
but he shows me more love then he shows her, and gives me such hope.
and i hate doing this to her, and i hate him doing this to us.
but i dont know how to let go..

help.

i was just prescribed this drug yesterday by my doc and have a pretty lengthy supply. its one of the few psychiatric drugs i havent been on and i know many people who use it recreationally. i took a few today at work and didnt really feel much but a general feeling of calm but i was really, really bored. i havent taken any since i came home and now im just annoyed at things. so the question is have you had experience with this drug and how much did you take? did it just zonk you out completey or were you able to function but be floaty and happy the whole time?
i just want some insight on the drug so i know how much i could take at work and how much i could take when i have the time to just veg out. they are 1mg tablets. any info is useful

 I left everything for you. My family. My friends. My job. My country. I'm on the other side of the ocean from everything I know and love, apart from you. Here, you are all I have. And you are withholding even that from me. This is your city. Here are your family. Your friends. Your country. And now there's me. How very fucking convenient for you. You won't make the tiniest sacrifice to spend time with me. You make me feel guilty, like I should feel privileged if you make a space in your schedule. and even though we have been together for four years, and I have given up EVERYTHING for you, you have changed your mind about moving in together "for the time being". You now say you didn't say we'd move in together. You said we might. Bullshit.

I love you. I hate you. Fuck you. And me even more for being enough of an idiot to stay.